That sounds harsh, but how can it not be true?
Let’s meditate on what “love” is. It is “to will the good of the beloved”. Now, what is the good of man? It is to reach God, to be in God, to participate in the divine life and see and love the Blessed Trinity, and consequently, to be in loving communion with all his fellow men.
Now, is that good possible for the damned? It is not. They cannot have it. They have ironed their wills against God’s.
Now, does God do things that are pointless? Meaningless? Fruitless? Well, he offers his love to those who might repent, even if they don’t. That they might repent makes the offer of love meaningful.
But Question: After the woman you are courting definitively tells you that she will not marry you, do you go on proposing? How could God go on wooing the definitive rebel in hell?
There are those who want to make hell a bed of roses that the damned simply can’t stand. So that, their hell is that they don’t like the good things being proffered to them. But to suggest that there is grace in hell, which is what this amounts to, is to suggest that a necessary failure is what God wills. It seems abhorrent that God would will a necessary failure, but grace in hell would necessarily fail.
Rather, the Scriptures indicate that the damned must “depart from me you wicked!”, that they are “cast out”, etc. The language of distance is used, conveying a definitive abandonment by God.